Every child has boyfriends and girlfriends in school in their town. When you are three, four, five years of age, didn't you have boyfriends and girlfriends? But we're giving it a new meaning to this simple friend. a friend need not necessarily mean you have to get physical with them.
This is something that you have picked up from certain societies where the body is everything.
why is it so that today it has become like this? This was only in the United States., but today it's everywhere. If you say a relationship, people think it's a body-based relationship. Friendship is a relation made before the creation of human beings through the soul, in the world, they are miss linked and will meet as a friend if the brain hormones do not hijack the love from the soul.
Do we have a relationship with your parents, your friends, your teachers?
But you cannot say… if you say I have a relationship with my teacher, they will think,
you have done something wrong with your teacher. Why have you become like this?
Your intelligence has been hijacked by your hormones. If I say “you are my friend” that means I must mess with your body. Is that a necessity? Can’t we be? you are a girl if you're my friend but I can't say you're my “girlfriend,” because it will be understood in a different way.
Why this has happened is, we are giving too much significance to body-based relationships.
You must understand there are relationships deeper than the body. You can hold such profound relationships with people without your body being involved in it. Isn't it so?
Well, the body-based relationship may be necessary with somebody that is fine. That's your choice.
But that is only possible in a limited way. But friendship and relationships are possible at various levels with an enormous number of people. You can hold intimate relationships with thousands of people. I have a very intimate relationship…
I… the way I'm sitting here with a large number of student friends or colleagues, I assume a certain intimacy with them. But if I have used the word “intimacy,” people think two bodies should be rubbing. if two bodies are rubbing, only skin is touching, all right?
Skin is the outermost cover of who you are. How can that be intimate? I don’t consider that intimate.
I can penetrate people, not just their minds and their emotion, their very innards, their very life process, Need that kind of relationship with people, where my life energies reverberate with their life energy. That's really intimate. it's maybe a necessity at a certain stage of one's life.
We are not trying to make it right or wrong. It's one’s choice. But don't make that the basis of friendship. Why can't you befriend every girl and every boy around you?
So essentially you're asking at what age should I go into sexually-oriented relationships?
But I think it will be… you'll be doing a great service to yourself and to the world
if you remove this boyfriend, girlfriend business and call it something else. Call them your what…romance or your love affair or whatever.
Because friend, the word “friend” must be released from the body. It's very important.
Otherwise, friendships won't happen. Everybody will be like this. Because if I say “you're my friend,” she's afraid, unnecessarily, isn’t it? If I say “She is my friend,” she will fear “What is he up to? How is he, my friend?” Release the word “friend” from the body, it's very important.
Let friendships happen all over. Well, body-based relationships happens with another individual, that's different. That's your choice. At what age?
See when you're in… education. If you don't take charge of these instruments at this stage in your life, believe me, your own body, your own mind will trip you in so many ways, right through your life. You won’t ride them, they will ride you. That should not happen. At this stage in your life, let the focus fundamentally be on how to grow yourself to the best possible place within yourself. Don't be in a hurry to live. A living will happen a little later. If you live too early, tch, you will not live too well. Don't try to live too early. I am not a moralistic person to tell you “do this, don't do this.” If somebody has such a compulsive need, they can do it. But everybody needs not make it a trend. if you're in college, you must have a sexually oriented relationship with somebody. There is no compulsion like that. There is no such rule that it must be so.
One can grow.
But I must tell you this, among the mango farmers, there is a practice. India this is well known.
If you plant a mango sapling, within twelve-fourteen months flowering will happen when the season comes. A mango farmer meticulously removes every flower from the plant because if you let it go, it will bear fruit. One or two fruits will come out of this little plant.
Only those who are not allowed to fruit up to three to four years. will become full-blown trees and bear a lot of fruit. Those plants which bear fruit too early will never become full-fledged trees.
So a mango farmer has this wisdom. He keeps on nipping off every flower. Similarly, human beings should not be in a rush to live. The important thing is before you try to live, you are in a place high enough so that life will roll out well for you. You live too early, then it could become an uphill task all your life and tomorrow. Many turmoils are happening.
But people tell me or if you just look around, you will see,
most of the faces there are Indians, Chinese and like this.
But generally the white families, by the time they're eighteen, they're out of their families,
they’re all living with their partners, they’re going through emotional stuff,.they have to make some money for that and the daily evening they have to take care of their partners. No time to go to the library, no time to study.
A whole lot of Americans are not even finishing university
simply because they have a boyfriend and a girlfriend going and it will not always go smooth,
things will happen daily turmoils, problems, you know? Every day these things are happening.
Now, you need to understand that this is a time of your life when you're at the highest level of energy.
At this stage in your life, if you create a certain focus and balance within yourself, this energy will translate into something fantastic. But at this stage in your life, if you do not bring focus and balance and you earn it, let's say when you're forty, forty-five, you will not have the same energy.
This is something that you don't understand that they think this level of energy will be there all your life.
It is just a question of eight to twelve to fifteen years maximum. From the age of fourteen to thirty, there is a certain upsurge of energy.
At this time if you learn how to manage this, keep a balance and focus on your life, you bring a focus to your life, this life will function and play at a higher level of life. If you don't bring those things and you're in a hurry to live, then you will see it becomes an uphill task not that you won't make it at all, you may make it but unnecessary struggles through life.
So it's an
individual choice. If somebody has such a strong compulsion, they may go for it.
Don't make it a trend that if you're in a college, you must have a body-based relationship.
Not necessary
Very nice sir🥰🥰